When there is an uncomfortable feeling in relationship with others, there is a river we must cross to put that feeling down. It is a river of reconciliation and forgiveness. If you cross this river safely, you will see Happy Village. If there are any cautions in entering the village, they are words you should not use while crossing the river.
“It’s my fault, but . . .”
“If that’s what you think . . .”
“I don’t remember but . . .”
Unnecessary conjunctives, subjunctives, or expressions show that you don’t yet acknowledge your mistake or fault, and make the listener angrier rather than make him feel to forgive you. Ostensible apology is better when it is not done.
If you had apologized for the wrongs you’ve done but your relationship didn’t get any better, you need to examine whether or not you’ve used these taboo words nuances. It is difficult to sincerely apologize, but if you do, you’ll be in heaven because heaven is granted only to those who row with the oars of modesty and cross the river of reconciliation and forgiveness.
How good and pleasant it is when brothers live together in unity! Psalm 133:1