When you fall in love, dopamine is secreted from the brain’s nucleus, and you feel much joy and happiness. Naturally, there will be liveliness and more smiles on your face and the world looks bright and beautiful. As you feel good, you will become generous even with the matters you usually got annoyed or irritated with. You do not see the disadvantages of the loved one but see only good things.
This phenomenon is called the pink lens effect in psychology. Just like you wear pink glasses, the person you love looks adorable no matter what he or she does.
How good would it be if the glasses were not taken off forever? The validity period of the pink lens effect is three years at most. There must be difference among people, but you gradually come to see the weakness of the other person over time, and what you regarded as strong points of the other person begins to look like disadvantage. In actuality, the other person is the same as he or she was, but your mind has changed.
But real love develops from the moment on. If the two accept each other as he or she is and cover their weakness and are considerate of each other, the love and trust that have been firm in them won’t expire.